Conversations last approximately 20 mins.
In 20 mins, I have to convince to excite, to engage, to leave the conversation with a smile on your face.
How do you talk to strangers?
- The First Word Flood Gates: Just say the first words. A simple one will do. ‘Hello’. Who knows what they will say and there’s nothing to lose. Just say it, they aren’t talking to you so you might as well be the first mover.
- Skip the small talk. You need to be memorable. You have 45 seconds. Small talk contributes nothing to the conversation. Ask personal questions. Eg. Interesting name – Is there a story behind it? Where do you come from, and where does your family live? What starts with a ‘Hello’ can end with a marriage proposal.
- Find the me-toos. Nothing kills conversations like negativity. Find something both persons have in common, and grow from there. Eg. Same country, same interests.
- Pay a unique compliment. “People will forget what you do or say but never forget how you made them feel.”
- Ask for an opinion. Everyone wants validation. Listen to their opinion. Ask generic questions like “What’s the last movie you saw and how did you find it?’ No exam questions.
- Be present. Be in that conversation, wholeheartedly. Make eye contact – it’s where you can feel the conversation.
- Name, place, animal, thing. Remember their name – it’s the sweetest thing in the world to them. (Write it down on your phone, if you have to). Places they like to go to, the places they been to. Their pets’ name. Their wives’ names. Remember the little things to keep the conversation going.
A conversation is like a book. You can flip to any page or chapter. You can read as long as you want and every person is a really good book.
The world is a library. Instead of reading only the cover – reach for a book, open a book and start reading a story.